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by Sharif Abdullah   
14 December 2012
Image [Editor's note:
The onslaught from industrialized, militarized society, where the vast majority is in some kind of "free slavery," is even worse than Sharif Abdullah identifies in his latest Currents and Futures column which follows. But he's right on target, pardon the expression.
As for me,

I Am Untamed
I Am Not In A Zombie Majority
Nature Is The Only Reality

In other words: heck, may as well enjoy yourself and not hurt anybody. Sorry if you don't like my speaking up, but we can share the favor of tolerating our peaceful attempts to communicate and live. Tanx, not tanks, in advance.

 - Jan Lundberg,,]

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Anger-Fueled Suicides – A Society Without Dreams

[Someone once said that my writings were “too negative”. He said, “It seems like Sharif is the only one at the party not having any fun.”

Then, someone walks into an elementary school and opens fire. And it doesn’t look like a party anymore.

I started writing this article with the Oregon Mall shooting on Tuesday. It is based on an article I wrote on the Kip Kinkel shootings, 14 years ago. I then had to modify it with today’s shootings in Connecticut. I wonder if I’ll get this posted before it happens again…

I’ve been saying the same thing for over 20 years. I really wonder if we’re ever going to pay attention to the real issues…


Anger-Fueled Suicides: A Roll Call of Infamy:

• Adam Lanza (Sandy Hook Elementary), 26 dead, unknown number of wounded. Suicide.
• ;Jacob Roberts (Clackamas Mall), 2 dead, 1 wounded. Suicide.
• James Holmes (Aurora Mall), 12 dead, 59 wounded. Captured alive.
• Wade Page (Sikh Temple), 6 dead, 4 wounded. Suicide.
•Harris and Klebold (Columbine High School), 13 killed, 21 injured. Double suicide.
• Kip Kinkel (Springfield High School), 2 dead, 24 wounded. Captured alive.

Unless we start doing things differently, the list will get longer. For every shooter that acts, there are 100, or 1,000, who are suiting up and getting their guns. Unless we respond to the real motivations, the real pain, generated by a society that does not work, these anger-fueled suicides will become as common as traffic jams.

Who is to blame? They certainly did not start out bad. These shooters, in 16 to 20+ years, went from being cuddly, happy, laughing babies and smiling children to homicidal and suicidal maniacs. WHAT HAPPENED?

They committed these acts because they were starved. Soul starved.

Starved, not in the sense of lacking food, but in the sense of an inability to obtain the real nutrition they needed – emotional and spiritual. In reading his tortured journal excerpts (published in a local newspaper), it was clear to me that Kip Kinkel had the experience of constant soul pain, a profound aloneness, a pain that we find hard to identify but is none the less real.

He didn’t start off life as a psychotic. None of them did. They don’t have “bad genes”. They were in pain, dying inside from a lack of experience of the Transcendent.

No, I don’t mean that they needed to go to church, or read a particular holy book. The Transcendent is all around us – and our children are not taught how to connect with it. When I say that the shooters lack the Transcendent, I mean:

• A lack of experiences of community with other beings, including but not limited to other human beings.
• A lack of experiences of depth, of meaning. Moving through the ordinary world, but not having an awareness of beauty, of love, of meaning, of aliveness — inherent in everyday activities.
• A lack of awareness of Life and Death. A knowing that goes beyond Hollywood movies and first-person shooter video games.
• The lack of a Dream – not just the sleeping kind, but being aligned with a concept, an idea that goes beyond your personal life. The shooters were in pain. Soul pain is real. Our culture, in its ignorance of spirit and soul, cannot recognize their pain (and society’s role in causing it). Soul pain is real and important — obviously, it is more important than life itself for those who suffer it.
THEY DON’T NEED “THERAPY”. They don’t need pharmaceuticals. They don’t need counseling in how to function in a dysfunctional society. This is not a “mental health” issue. This is a societal health issue.

I say this from experience. I was clearly in the single digits when I recognized that something was fundamentally wrong with the world. Like the shooters, I had no language to articulate the emptiness that sat in my chest like a gaping hole, the sense that I was in the world completely alone.

Unlike the shooters, I was lucky. Part of my “luck” was being raised poor and black in Camden, NJ, America’s underbelly. Being raised in the Sixties, a time of “black consciousness”. I could label the emptiness in my chest “racism”, and therefore had a focus for my anger and rage.

The shooters, raised as white, heterosexual, middle-class males living in middle-class towns, had no readily available labels for their anger. They had no focus for the emptiness, the gaping holes in their chests. They had no consciousness movement. They had no ideology. There was nowhere for the emptiness and anger to go – but out. (Important note: The labels are irrelevant. There was NO DIFFERENCE between my emptiness and that of the shooters. They just had different presenting symptoms and different explanations for their behavior. Or, no explanations at all. Trying to put labels on societal emptiness (calling it “racism” or “sexism” or “mental illness”) simply continues the problem.)

Societal Dreaming…

It is important for us to dream. Research has shown that if a person is denied dreams, they go psychotic really, really quickly. We live in a psychotic society because we have been denied our communal dreams. We’ve been denied the dreams that we hold in common, we have been denied our experience of Transcendence.

At one point, our societal dream was called “The American Dream”. That dream has become a fantasy, obtainable only by ignoring the suffering of others. Our young people know this. Even though the American Dream is dysfunctional, we haven’t replaced it with anything. Not having a “life dream” is debilitating… ESPECIALLY FOR MEN. Without a dream, you are just going through the motions of living.

It is important for us to experience Transcendence. We feel the yearning for us to become a part of something larger than who we think we are; we feel the yearning to become MORE. That yearning is what I call a “spiritual hunger.” That hunger for the Sacred is a good thing.

The “Hunger for the Sacred” is the thing that drives us to community with each other. The “Hunger for the Sacred” is the thing that drives us to communion with the natural world. The “Hunger for the Sacred” is the thing that drives us toward union with the Divine, whatever your concept of the Divine may be.

I believe the hunger for the Sacred is good, but not knowing how to feed that hunger is very much not good.

Most of us in this society have no idea how to be fed. We’ve created a soul-starved society. We’ve created a condition I call spiritual starvation.

This is how our society got to where it is right now, where so many people are filled with despair, anger and frustration instead of being filled with Spirit. Spiritual starvation happens when people are trying to satisfy their spiritual hunger with things that completely lack Spirit; with things that are not spirit-food. This is like eating Styrofoam. Shaping and painting the Styrofoam to look like food does not provide nutrition.

In this society, we are not able to truly satisfy our spiritual hunger. We are unable to recognize that it’s not the new car that you need; it’s that you need to BE IN LOVE, to receive and give love with another human being. It’s not the bigger bank account that you need; you need to belong to and work for your community. It’s not the second house that you need; you need to go out and be with nature.

Taking Action?

In the face of our youth dying inside for lack of soul and transcendence, what do we do? We commission blue ribbon panels to study the causes of youth violence, or we try to control the sale and ownership of guns. This is like trying to control the epidemic of youth suicide by outlawing razor blades. In short, the leaders of this society have no idea what to do.

Have you heard any Presidential candidate, Democrat, Republican or Independent, mention our out of control suicide rate? Even once? Have you heard any federal or state official acknowledge what is sitting right in front of our faces? As long as the suicides are quiet and solo, our “leaders” are fine.

Do you think that statement is too strong? Look closely at our youth; it may not be strong enough. We have created an entire society that revels in shallow materiality while denying soul, depth, mysticism, Transcendence. This society created the shooters and millions more like them.

So, what do we do?

1. Start dreaming – and not just while you’re sleeping. What is the life dream that occupies you? What is the goal that transcends your life?

2. Analyze your societal dream. Is it worthwhile? Is it meaningful? (You may spend hours a day collecting cat whiskers… but does that mean anything to society? Yes, people do that…) My personal dream is to catalyze and live in a world that truly works for all beings. That dream keeps me young, alive and fresh. It’s my reason for waking up every morning, and the reason why I can go to bed tired but satisfied every night. It is a dream worthy of my sacrifice, even the sacrifice of my life.

(Your dream must be more than “I want the world to be a better place”. That statement is so non-specific, it becomes meaningless. Adolph Hitler wanted “the world to be a better place”. What makes your dream different from HIS?)

3. Share your dream with others, especially your children (or the other youth who are around you). Let them know there is more to life than a new car and a full bank account. Let them know, from your own example, that you are not moved to act by fear, but by LOVE. More importantly: enlist their aid and support. Invite them to make your societal dream their own.

4. Practice your dream. Devote time to it. Practice it… out loud. Don’t just talk to your “in group”, the people you are comfortable with. “Out loud” means:

      a. Go to the same places as the shooters (malls, movie theaters, religious temples that are not your own…). Yes… go to Wal-Mart!!

      b. Pass out flyers that say “I LOVE YOU. I want nothing from you. My dream is to create a world that works for all – what’s yours?” (or however you formulate your largest, most inclusive societal dream). Consider it a holiday card that you are giving to a few thousand anonymous friends.

     c. Make eye contact with each and every person you give your card to. SHOW people the power of a positive dream.

5. Introduce your children to Transcendent experiences. Regardless of your religion or belief system, look for traditions and practices that deepen your children’s connections to themselves, their world and the invisible forces at work all around us. Mediate with them, practice yoga or chanting or mystical dance. Walk in the woods with them, and talk to them about the psychological, emotional and spiritual ramifications of what they are seeing, smelling and feeling. Do the same thing with a walk down the street. (And, if necessary, introduce yourself to Transcendent experiences first.)

6. At the very, very least — send a copy of this article to every young person on your email list. And encourage them to pass it along…

Will these six steps stem the tide? Perhaps. Or, perhaps we will read words like this, but continue to wait – to wait until it is our child or grandchild who is the victim… or the shooter.

I end with words from the late Vaclav Havel, from his Introduction to “Creating a World That Works for All”:

Could this be a way to stop the blind perpetual motion dragging us toward hell? Can the persuasive words of the wise be enough to achieve what must be done? Or will it take an unprecedented disaster to provoke this kind of existential revolution – a universal recovery of the human spirit and renewed responsibility for the world?



Sharif giving Tedx talk

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Sharif will be participating in an Inter-Faith Meditation on 19 December at New Thought Center for Spiritual Living. He invites you to attend.]

Sharif's previous article in Culture Change, too long ago, was Cuba's Energy Use in Political Perspective, in May 2009.

The Last Word (before comments): The name of today's infamous scene, Sandy Hook, is sort of ironic. Given that there might be some relationship with the greater New York City urban area's having been slammed by Sandy and climate change, was the school violence a left hook from Mother Nature? She has become a formidable foe not just from outside of us, but perhaps from inside too as we malfunction as a society. - JL

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Thank you Sharif for expressing exactly what I was thinking. We need a vision for how each of us personally can contribute to revitalizing our earth systems at every level.
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I've been promoting a similar view to a host of people, on a host of societal ills, though not as eloquent or specific in focus as the author here . I tell people the pain they're feeling is their "call to consciousness". It's the pain of a nation and whether it's people bitching about their jobs, decrying the ODs from prescription drugs, and now wondering why oh why do people go shoot up schools and malls, murder innocents in increasing numbers, what have you, this pain of a disconnected soul is at the bottom of it all. Greed and the elevation of the individual, the winner-take-all-he-with-the-most-toys-wins model of the righteous citizen is shoved down our throats from birth and permeates every aspect of our daily lives, right down to the way we physically design our communities and transportation systems. Hyper-militarized police raid medical clinics and tens of thousands of non-violent-and POOR- pot smokers are thrown in abysmal, dehumanizing private prisons while banksters and billionaires commit financial crimes and fraud on a staggering scale that crashes the world economy, get bailed out by the shrinking middle class they continually screw, then get...a bonus! Dreams of empire along with Wealth & Income Inequality has turned this country into the very thing our founders rebelled against- a small noble class, free from the laws that apply to the rest of us, lording over those whom have little hope of ever escaping the situation they are born into, or freeing themselves from chains of debt required just to "make it", while "making it" becomes more and more illusory for the mass of society. That our current political class ponders how deep and how painful must be the cuts to social programs in return for an incrementally higher yet still-historically-low individual tax rate for upper earners, no real discussions abound about reigning in Wall St. speculators, a financial transaction tax, carried interest loopholes, capital gains rates, corporate and individual tax havens, or our ridiculously unbelievably high "Defense" budget that is ripe with abuse by private contractors and the lobbyists-cum-former-generals who secure those contracts with legislators- or, as I like to call them, "congressional lobbyist interns". Sheesh what was I talking about? PAIN. The pain of the soul is real. We are beings born of exploded stars and connected on some quantum level to everything and everyone else in the universe. When we as a society put the material above the transcendental/spiritual, we have murder-suicides at increasing rates of crazy, and increasing distrust of those around us, and that, my friends, is not a good thing. Thank you, Sharif.
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You didn't say it in the words I would chose, I studiously avoid anything that sounds even slightly religious because my belief is that religion has done more harm than good, but you still said what I've been thinking and doing. I try to make sure the young people I know are connected to their dreams, my nephew wants to sail tall ships a dream that comes from the reading we did when he was young, I've helped him write resumes to get on these ships and he has now had two wonderful trips and a third coming up. You have to help them when bits of their dreams go wrong too, as when The Bounty recently went down in a hurricane. We went to the waterfront and toasted her and her crew and talked about the dangers in his dream. He needed that. Another nephew had to be taught from a very young age that violence is never the answer because his father beat him and his mother (they divorced when he was 5 and from then on I took every stick out of his hand and talked to him extensively about what he'd been through, he hated me for a while but now loves me dearly as he knows now what I was doing). Especially in North America we live in a sick consumer society alienated from nature, from the healing influence of trees etc. Take kids out into the woods all through the year and show them the magic of a living forest. Encourage them to look up at the night sky or look out at the sea. Take them to community events like beach cleanups and tree plantings and dinners for the homeless. Challenge them with questions, never ever put them down or ridicule their opinions. Be a part of their lives, don't be so caught up in your part of the rat race that you only see them as they leave the house to be with friends. Know who their friends are, make your home a welcoming place for those friends. Teachers do a fine job, but family teaching is just as important and often we are teaching because we fail to teach. We are teaching indifference when we just feed them, wash their clothes and say have a nice day. Find out about their classes and their teachers, who is their favourite and why? Pay attention if they tell you they hate school, connect the classes to the dreams. If anyone had ever explained to me that math would lead to science, environmental work etc it wouldn't have been such a struggle. Be connected, so they can be connected.
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Comments from a friend on a facebook thread:

[The problem with the hypothesis that this happens because of video games etc] is that killer point-of-view video games, violent media imagery, and a me first culture are present in many nations besides the USA, and those other nations do not have the same high level of violent crime that that USA does. For example, he same video games are popular in Canada and Europe, as well as in the USA, and Canada (and Europe, to a degree) has essentially the same media as the USA does, but neither Canada nor Europe ) have high levels of gun violence. The problem in the USA is more deep rooted than just kids imitating what they see on tv, or in Duke Nukem Forever. In fact, I doubt that there is a single cause. The incredible ease of getting near-military grade firearms in the USA is part of the problem, but I suspect that the underlying issue is a combination of two things.First, there is the problem that it is very easy for people to get trapped in a downward spiral. The lack of social safety nets, proactive mental health care, and the intense pressure to succeed on your own put people in situations that seem hopeless and makes them feel helpless. In many other countries there are mechanisms in place to avoid these problems, but in the USA these mechanisms tend to be very weak, or even nonexistent, and when they are available there can be intense social pressure not to use them when. Second (and this is where the entertainment hypothesis has some merit), there is a strong thread in US popular culture that heroic individual action will solve every problem. When someone thinks that they are trapped by whatever situation they are in the are susceptible to simplistic, Chuck Norris style, solutions. The result can be very violent. This does not explain every mass shooting, but I suspect that the combination of living in a society that openly tells people that they are responsible for dealing with their own problems, combined with continual exposure to the message that heroic action can solve any problem, is at least partially responsible for the fact that the USA has proportionally far more gun violence than any other developed nation on the planet.
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I think that the above comment that "the combination of living in a society that openly tells people that they are responsible for dealing with their own problems, combined with continual exposure to the message that heroic action can solve any problem, is at least partially responsible for the fact that the USA has proportionally far more gun violence than any other developed nation" is exactly backwards.

If someone is in a position of responsibility, where others depend directly on that person's performance, that person is likely to feel empowered and part of that small family or community. It is people who are unemployed or otherwise free of responsibilities and expectations who feel powerless and are more likely to freak out.
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Suicide, written by Emile Durkheim in 1897, offers an excellent explanation of these mass murder/suicides. The mass part is the current fashion. However, Durkheim determined that the principal cause of suicide in the advanced Western world was an individual losing the security that he had always enjoyed. This is why the shooters are consistently white, middle-class or better, educated AND down on their luck. Neoliberal culture and the resultant poor job market for young adults is generating more and more such people.
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Here's a great commentary and call to action by peace scholar Randall Amster, on today from his website New Clear Vision:
My comment at that website and Truthout's site is, "Randall Amster's summation is right on. Unlike most commentary, especially in the mainstream media, he goes into all factors feeding into senseless violence, including humanity's deprivation of healthy nature. He is an authority on how the war machine exacts a price at home as well as abroad. I would add that, to keep the public off balance and full of fear, events like Sandy Hook serve to distract us from demanding a healthy world, and dealing with severe injustices and scams at high levels." - Jan Lundberg
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Suicide is an increasing problem people here aren't paying enough attention to. It says something about society when an increasing number of people would rather be dead than to live another day in an increasingly cruel world that could care less about anything not associated with facebook.
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This article is very touching and should be read by all....Thanks. Your new fan.
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A great start. Sharif is on target as far as describing the despair and isolation facing young people who have withdrawn from the world. His plan of action is an inspiring call to live the change you want to see. I'm not sure whether the problem is that we live in a broken world, or whether there are simply a number of young people who for whatever reason lack a sense of self-worth and have great difficulty relating to others. That their withdrawal is painful, soul-destroying and has them on a downward trajectory is undeniable. Somehow, we have to identify and reach out to these young people. We have to break through their isolation. We all need to recognize how much we need each other and reach out to the fallen wounded. If they do not commit suicide, they commit other acts of violence. They are often wharehoused in jails. We must do better than this. It is aking us a frightened, angry, alienated people. We are feeding the beast.
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Just turn your thoughts of pessimism to thoughts of optimism. See the glass as half full instead of half empty. Life is far from ill. Life is a gift.
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